There seem to be a lot of spouses and Soldiers out there that PSC'ed but don't know anyone at their new dutystation. To me that is kind of awekward because I am a very social person and find new friends everywhere. But there are people that have a hard time to go out and make new friends but if you don't leave your house how are you suppossed to make new friends at all?
I.e. I talked to a single Soldier, he complained that he hasn't had a girlfriend in ten years and that he feels lonely but at the same time he refuses to go out. Instead he is sitting at home, playing videogames, keeping a grudge against the rest of the world. When I asked him why he wouldn't go out his answer was because he his not a very social person and that he hate people. Now that is a great reason not to go out. Complaining about not having friends and the very same time hating people makes so much sense.
It is so easy to get to meet new people. All you have to do is to go to the gym on post and take a look at the bulletin board. There are so many different types of activities out there that it should be easy for you to find something that fits you. Maybe it's Bowling, Tae Bo, Yoga or simply volunteering for the mail office. Call the MWR and see what they can offer you. You don't have to be alone if you don't chose to. It is your choice. Either stay home and complain you don't know anyone or go and do something about it.
I.e. I talked to a single Soldier, he complained that he hasn't had a girlfriend in ten years and that he feels lonely but at the same time he refuses to go out. Instead he is sitting at home, playing videogames, keeping a grudge against the rest of the world. When I asked him why he wouldn't go out his answer was because he his not a very social person and that he hate people. Now that is a great reason not to go out. Complaining about not having friends and the very same time hating people makes so much sense.
It is so easy to get to meet new people. All you have to do is to go to the gym on post and take a look at the bulletin board. There are so many different types of activities out there that it should be easy for you to find something that fits you. Maybe it's Bowling, Tae Bo, Yoga or simply volunteering for the mail office. Call the MWR and see what they can offer you. You don't have to be alone if you don't chose to. It is your choice. Either stay home and complain you don't know anyone or go and do something about it.
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I can only talk about my experience. I moved from France to the US in 92 got married and had to be more "social" and outgoing. And believe me, I wasn't at all before. I wouldn't speak to people I didn't know. It took me forever to actually have friends. Since I had to get to be more social, I know how to not feel to weird about being in a new situation or with new people. BUT, I totally can imagine how difficult it is for spouse and/or soldier to leave home and be "dumped" in a foreign country, the feeling of not belonging and not knowing the culture the language ect... I can understand that it must be hard for anyone to get out, but as you said it... you just need to get out and you might enjoy the fun. Afterall what do you have to lose, except a fews hours of your time!! And you might actually enjoy it!! So go for it!
I was like that as a Teenager. I wouldn't talk to people and barely had any friends. But that changed when I started to travel. I moved and travelled more than some Soldiers do in their entire career. I am 29 years old and moved 11 times in the past 8 years. I found out that it is easy to get to know new people and that you won't find new friends by sitting back home and doing nothing but watching TV or surfing the internet. Internet friends are fine and important too but they are not here. They cannot give you a hug and they can't go out to a bar with you. I understand it is not easy if you are new to this but you only overcome your loneliness by going out and socializing. That is the only way out and as you said, there is nothing to lose :)
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